having an affair book cover only 51ZLTcOctfLWhen the “three kings of orient are” came to offer gifts to Jesus at Bethlehem, they assumed the role of king-makers.

When it comes to the publishing world, gold, frankincense, and myrrh are not the gifts that launch a dynasty. The gift is Oprah.

I receive a daily email from the industry magazine, Publishers Weekly. Today’s update email included Oprah’s guest list for this week. Guess what book is going to soar to the top of the charts by this weekend? Is it a new novel that intertwines social commentary with an international treasure hunt? No. Is it a new memoir that chronicles the tears, trials, and triumphs of a nondescript suburban housewife turned diplomat? No.

This week, Oprah features a handbook for women who want to have an affair. Having an Affair: A Handbook for the Other Woman will take center stage with its author. She’s a self-titled mistress coach. Sarah Symonds.

The extra-marital affair has been around since shortly after the Garden was locked down and guarded by a shining angel with a sword. I’m sure affairs will continue to be fodder for Dear Abby columns and primetime sitcom plots for decades to come.

Affairs destroy marriages. They rip hope and foundations from beneath the feet of children. They divide friends. They disrupt society. They destroy trust.

I hope that Oprah will take her to task, but I doubt it.

hedges 9781433531552If you are tempted to even think about cheating on your spouse or cheating with another’s spouse, I encourage another title: Hedges: Loving Your Marriage Enough to Protect It

And if you are in an affair right now, don’t learn more secrets to covering it up, breaking up the (or both) marriages, and living in the new reality. Check out this book: Torn Asunder

There is hope. And you can’t find it in a relationship that has to be hidden, breaks up homes, and destroys reputations.